Ok so today I was on the bus with another trans guy and we were talking about how hard it is to get testosterone. The waiting lists, the price, all the doctors you have to go to, that kind of stuff. Except, we were calling it ’T’, like you do when you’re both closeted and in public.
Then suddenly the elderly lady sitting behind us was like ‘young men, either I’m going crazy or you both have never heard of supermarkets, they have shelves full of tea there! Do you need directions to one?’
To which my buddy starts to explain, because why not. ‘Well you see, we’re both trans, and… ’
The lady didn’t wait for him to finish his sentence. ‘Oh no, I don’t mind that at all! Now do you want to know how to get to a place that sells tea? I’m actually heading there right now!’
We let her take us to the supermarket. We let her show us, excitedly, where the tea was. We both bought loads.
howls moving castle: howls vain obsession with beauty is his fatal flaw. this is made extremely clear in numerous circumstances. this is supposed to be the thing you dont like about him
Anything can work if parents love their kids more than they hate one another. I divorced my kid’s mom but we had to decide that they were more important than what we felt about each other. It hasn’t been perfect but our kids are happy, cared for, and know that they’re loved. But I was raised in a single parent home bc my dad was trash and my mom couldn’t stand him. But she didn’t stop me from having a relationship with him and she raised me into manhood on her own. Kids just gotta know that they’re the priority not the pawns in a war.
Divorce is always a good thing, I don’t see why people can’t see that. Why the fuck would you want to be stuck in an unhappy marriage, just so you can say that you’re still married? Your children don’t want that. You don’t want that. The fuck is the point? My mom and dad stayed married but were miserable as fuck. I knew from a VERY young age (like 4 or 5) that they shouldn’t have been together. The atmosphere was always heavy when they were in the same room. It wasn’t ever comfortable for anyone, and I know and have always known that my and my siblings’ lives would have been drastically better if they just separated and we were able to get the whole of each of them separately, rather than just an unhappy piece of them together. Just get divorced and make things easier on everyone.
Just thinking about people making year-end summaries of their accomplishments and also about reasons to keep yourself alive through the next year. Sorry, it’s a bit of a sappy comic.
Some of the best writing advice I ever got was if you’re stuck on a scene or a line, the problem is actually about 10 lines back and that’s saved me from writer’s block so many times.
I feel like I need an elaborate explanation
Often times, I find myself stuck on what a character should say next or what should happen in a scene to connect A to B or so on. When this happens, I fall into the trap of writing and rewriting the same few lines over and over, and becoming more and more dissatisfied every time until I give up.
But problem is almost never actually whatever line I’m trying to write at the moment; the issue is the stuff leading up to the line. Maybe there are structural issues with the set up, maybe I wrote a bit of dialogue that was out of character leading to a discussion that doesn’t make sense, maybe I’m missing a vital piece of exposition or expositing too much. It could be a lot of things, but the important part of the advice is to look back and be willing to consider changes to something earlier in the work (even if you’re really attached to like a piece of dialogue or a particular sentence or something) instead of trying to find a way to force out a scene that’s not working.
